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the 411

no matter how hard you try, you can't please everyone

I am Cody Allyn

A boy, a lover, a philanthropist, a designer of beautiful things, a listener, an animal whisperer, a wine lover, a vehicle enthusiast, a demi-pansexual, an old soul, a starseed & so much more ...

I've been described by

those who know me as possessing a kind heart, of being a caring, warm and nurturing individual. Of wearing my heart on my sleeve, being too loyal, forgiving too easily, giving too much, while being oddly eccentric.

There are those who  are convinced I'm a human/alien hybrid who posses magic that I wield to do my bidding. 

Some are intimidated by the "air of confidence" that I project & find me unapproachable.

Some say...

I'm beautiful, that I have stunning eyes, wonderful lashes, a great smile and a contagious laugh. 

I've been told I'm a loving & happy drunk, a great host, genuine, real and fun to be around.  

The bad?

There are also those who'd describe me as the worst kind of villain in their stories. They would say I'm greedy, vengeful, vindictive, too blunt, scary and that I only care about myself. That I'm narcissistic, an "Uggo" and abusive.

Others have said

That I’m too guarded, hiding behind the walls I’ve built up from years of pain, that I’m unemotional, hard to read, harder to crack and that I make it very difficult to “LOVE” me.

The truth?

I may be all of those or none of them, I guess it really depends on the version of me you know & how "you" perceive me.

My therapist has told me that I'm assertive and that sometimes my delivery can sound harsh, however unlike most people "there is no Subtext" which she finds fascinating.   She's said that she can see how it might offend, or scare people into thinking there was a judgment or rejection, especially if they are "avoidant", passive or trying to read between the lines. 

Anyhow ... 

From my perspective, I'm just a guy trying to navigate through this construct we call life, one moment at a time. Leaving behind smiles, making positive impressions where I can, helping how I can while protecting myself and those I love from what I perceive as potentially harmful and negative.